Thursday, June 27, 2013

"Haters"

So I think I've talked about this before on here... but nobody actually reads this blog consistently and this is something that I myself find really interesting so I'm just gonna do it again.

Everyone always says that you should just ignore the "haters" and just do your own thing. I could sit here and explain it all day but you all get it. Ignoring disapproval is a big deal these days. And I don't disagree with that at all, I've dealt with my share of criticism and whatnot, but I'm gonna bring in another way to look at it.

Despite what everyone says, the approval of other people is absolutely important. One of the biggest desires human beings have is the desire to be respected and liked, there's no getting around it, it's a fact. So when someone adamantly demands that they don't care what other people think, I honestly don't really believe them.

If I do something and a few people criticize me for it, I'm upset. I have a human desire to please other people and make other people agree with the things I do and say. Maybe there's a few exceptions, but not many. I just see so many people trying to convince everybody around them that they don't care about what other people say or think, and I don't buy it.

So the point I'm trying to get at is that I wish people would be more open minded. If you do something and there are a few people that are like that was a dumb thing to do, how about stepping back and giving their opinion a chance? What if they're right? They aren't always going to be right, but sometimes they will be. Human instinct is to immediately throw up a blockade when someone tries to criticize you, but that doesn't do much for your self-improvement, does it? Other people's opinions matter, and we don't realize that.

God forbid that you would ever do something wrong or stupid. I understand that it takes a lot for a person to realize that they did something wrong, but life would be a lot better if we had a more widespread view of things, because maybe we'd end up actually agreeing with the "haters" and start doing something positive with our decisions.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Superbad Inspired

Watching Superbad right now, because everyone should watch Superbad at least once a month. Anyways there's this one line that made me think about some stuff...



"Is this about some girl man? Who gives a f*** she's a f***in girl, what are you gonna do, go out with her for 2 years? ... next time you're pissed off about something, don't keep it inside for 10 years say it like a f***in man."

As ridiculous as of a movie it is to quote, the statement from a young, fat Jonah Keri holds some weight.

I've been through 21 years of the majority of my friends being unmarried. Shit, it's too late for me to set this up all nicely and whatnot. So let me just say this. Dating girls before you're out of college honestly seems like a waste of time to me. Now I'm not for a second claiming this as true for everybody, because I understand there are dozens of scenarios that can happen to make different opinions formulate.

There are exceptions, some girls are really cool and your friends will be all about hanging out with them and stuff, but honestly that's the rarity and not the normality. In my experience, the majority of the time, when one of my friends gets a girlfriend, I never become actual friends with that girl, she just takes away from my friendship with that friend. Again, there have been exceptions (Corey, Markie if you are reading this, you guys are the lone exception I'm referring to).

What I'm trying to get at it is that most of the relationships school-aged kids get into end up, in the end, hurting the people in that relationship. You get further away from your real friends and sometimes you never actually get that real friendship back.

Guys never 'break up' with other guys. If you become friends with another dude, you pretty much stay friends with that other dude. For me personally, I've never actually stopped being friends with another guy that I've been good friends before. I have fallen out of contact with another friend (Brandon Franks), but I've never grown any resent for another one of my guy friends. That's what's nice about being a guy I guess, we aren't too emotional and we forget shit easily... it's easy for us.

So I guess the point I am trying to arrive at is while you're below the age of like 22, it's best to not worry so much about girls and just worry about having as much fun as possible with your boys... because there's no risk there. You have the rest of your life to find a wife or whatever... you only have 22 give or take 3 years to have very small responsibility years to live it up.

I'm sure this post isn't actually reaching anybody in the desired age group... but I stated my peace anyways. Later.